Greif

Grief is the response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or some living thing that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, grief also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, cultural, spiritual and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, while grief is the reaction to that loss.

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Every single person experienced Grief in some capacity or another, and yet Grief is not spoken of. And when we do speak of Grief we are shut down and told that’s okay, this too shall pass. That’s okay, everyone dies. Everyone loses a partner, everyone loses a job, everyone … yada yada… who the F cares about what everyone else feels when your Grief is swallowing you whole.

You can allow Grief to swallow you whole. Just don’t become the hole.

What? It’s okay that Grief is swallowing you whole? Yes! All you need to do is to allow it. There’s many useful coping mechanisms for Grief but what one has learned is we are not here just to cope and to get by while hoping that time will solve all our problems … no. That’s not how this works.

Grief is an Honor… To have loved and “lost” so deeply that Grief knocks on your door to awaken your senses inside of you.

Grief awakens your senses beyond the mind. Grief awakens your Heart.

It is you, in fact, whom chooses to shut your Heart down after experiencing Griefs call. Grief doesn’t choose that… you do.

Grief says I will hold the door open for you when you feel like shutting down. A not so subtle reminder that Love transcends all space and time, which is why you feel her presence etched so deeply in your Heart.

Grief may feel like the end. But if you’re relying on time to heal all your wounds… my friend, this is only the beginning.

Grief asks you to sit with her. Talk with her. Share your burdens, your pain, your sorrows, your stories, your remembrance, your joy. Grief asks you to get to know her, not push her away.

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Grief asks that you not dismiss or diminish your experiences. She knows she’s one of those teachers not many want to encounter. Kinda like the after school detention teacher that doesn’t want to be there either, but we all have jobs… and there’s really no way to get around it. You just have to sit with it.

So if you’re going to have to sit in what feels like Grief detention hell, you may as well take advantage of your time here and make a new friend as I assure you, she never really goes away.

Grief comes to you now not as a punishment. Not as another what the F now, I can’t seem to get ahead… not as a victim…. But as a teacher and guide into conscious worlds of awareness and compassion you may have never even knew existed within yourself.

Grief comes to you as a reminder that the relationship forming here is not one of loss, but hope, understanding, peace, serenity and Grace. She reminds you that Love is infinite. Love is eternal. Love cannot be taken away or lost, or stolen… as Love is simply you in her purest form.

If one allows themselves the opportunity, Grief becomes an extension, not detention. She teaches you that you are capable of expanding your awareness within your senses. That you too, hold the key to compassion and Grace. That you too can communicate with her and call upon her guidance and wisdom and that maybe you needed detention, as we are in the greatest learning school offered to man.

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What one has learned from her own Grief is that if one can accept hardship and suffering, then one can easily just accept compassion and Grace.

You are reminded now, to be gentle with yourself. To allow yourself to feel your Grief in her wholeness, WHOLEness, vs. the hole of the mess. To thank your Grief for the daily reminders of the Love that exists within your remembrance. That within such remembrance that you’ll remember that you never really lost anything at all… that Love never really dies, it only gets the door shut in her face. And just like the after school detention teacher she will sit there with you until you realize that she’s only trying to help. That every time you shut a door, she will find a new one to open for you. Because Grief is not empty hole, she simply a guide to what is WHOLE within you.

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